The Road to a positive life is not easy. You literally have to face a lot of things you don’t like, allowing yourself to realize where all the negative energy is, and learn to cope with it. There’s always one of two ways of handling negative energy. There’s those who run away and rid of it completely, to never face it again but, what if you can’t? It’s at school, your workplace, family, or home. How do you see positive in a negative place? Maybe you have gotten away from it, but the negativity lingers in your mind, making you feel ugly with yourself that you can’t allow yourself to be happy. Happy isn’t what you know yet. The past year, I’ve been on that road to positivism. I’ve seen a lot more changes in my attitude, the way I look at things, the way I take things. It definitely doesn’t happen quickly and you almost have to not even realize your making a change within yourself. For years, I’ve been in a more of a denial state about some of my actions, but knowingly that I was acting that way and if I knew I was, and I didn’t like the feeling of the action afterwards, why do it? I had gotten fed up with the way I felt as person, the negative thinking, the stressing, the anxiety of my thoughts running at 1000 miles per hour. These are just some things I’ve picked up in the past year that have allowed me to put negative days behind me.
Surround Yourself with Happy
This one is pretty cliche, to surround yourself with happy wherever you can, just allows for some relieving. Whether it’s going for a walk and seeing some greenery or if it’s within your bubble, listening to music, writing your thoughts. Find joy in everything you do. If your at work and the negativity is at home, or vs versa, make the best of not being around one place or the other. Through my school years, I pretty much stayed to myself and would engage with people who engaged with me. I never liked to try to fit in, I was just me and if someone felt interested in being friends, well lets be friends. Having friends and being social does help with the happy aspect, but my personality calls for being a homebody and my home is my happy place, so it works for me. Usually I’m off for the weekends, I like to open my blinds, grab a cup of coffee, put on some Lofi music and clean, read or write.
Learning to Just Let it Go
I won’t break out in a Frozen number here but, letting things go has been my upmost difficult trait to overcome. When I didn’t like something or things weren’t going how I thought they were, I would be so moody and negative until something made me happy again. I didn’t like that people had to walk on eggshells or I could feel the mood shift with everyone in my party. I didn’t like being the reason for that. I want for everyone to have fun, I want to have fun. Don’t knit pick at life, things don’t always pan out.
The same for grudges, and dare I say, petty thoughts. It does no good to hold onto something that is no longer apart from your life or affecting it. That pit of anger is holding you back from seeing a different world for yourself. Comparing yourself does no good either. Each time you see someone who has affected you in some way, you feel that tension, I get it. But worrying about that other person is only allowing you to see their achievments and not allowing you to grow yourself. Just focus on you, and where you want to go and you will go.
I would categorize self-love on its own, but not having some type of confidence, is between surrounding yourself with happy and being able to let go of the pesky thoughts we tend to have on ourselves. After some time of beating ourselves up, there has to be a point where we stop doing that and move forward. Once we see the greater person within ourselves, we grow faster, we work towards our goals better, we accomplish more with the focus to be better.
Clear the Clutter
Reorganizing your living space, or work space can clear so much head space for yourself. It’s a type of refresher for me. After this post, I plan to redo my bedroom. It gives your home a face lift because your probably going to come across areas that needed a cleaning, and the change will give a feeling of renewal. Once a week are my basic cleanings, once a month I do deep cleanings and it seems every 4-6 months I move my furniture around.
This one is for both mentally and internally. I have never done a full 3-7 day cleanse but, I’ve gone to add more water to my diet to better flush my insides. My body tends to feel weak when I eat a lot of red meat, so I opt for chicken or tuna dishes more. It varies on your blood and body type. But I just recognize which foods bring me down and limit those from my diet. Let’s be honest, eating an organic or non processed food diet, isn’t budget friendly for everyone. I have to improvise when it comes to eating healthy on a dime kind of life.
To mentally detox, I get in my happy place, which is usually my couch, with a beverage of choice depending on the time of day and just unwind. I’ve been listening to Lofi with no lyrics. I feel anything with lyrics will take me more to the songs meanings than what I want to focus on or not focus on. I’ll do something quite like look at pictures, read inspiring stories, plan blog posts, write weekly goals for myself. I like to clear my mind of the week and go into the next week with a clear one.
In, conclusion, there are some traits I want to continue to work on. Like I mentioned, I’m still on the path of positivism. But my progress has done a lot for me. It has made me accomplish more than I would’ve on my old mindset. I’m more appreciative of time spent with others, and the way I feel on a daily basis. I surprise myself when I come across points of time where’s before, I would’ve acted in a hastily manner. I’m able to move past things easier and have focus on what I should have focus on. My journey will continue, and there will be a part 2, there will be a success story, which excites me. I’ve almost reached that light at the end of the tunnel that I once believed wasn’t there, never existed. It’s brighter than I imagined.
Think Positive, Be Simple